On Isolation and Inspiration


I’m always amazed that in our hyper-connected world, so many of us still suffer from feelings of isolation. With three million ‘social’ networks, ubiquitous laptops, cell phones and tablets we’re more connected to each other than we’ve ever been in history yet on a disturbingly regular basis, I and my friends mention really craving face time. And no, not that Facetime provided by Apple! Sure we conveniently keep up with the goings on in our lives and careers via text and live tweeting but there’s nothing like being in the presence of your people.

For bloggers, I think those feelings of isolation are especially prevalent. We’re constantly ‘staying in touch’ via our social networks, updating, checking-in and sharing, but staring at a screen hour after hour can really leave you with a distorted sense of reality and your self. Sometimes we have no idea, if our work is impacting anyone’s life or even being read for that matter. It’s distressing to say the least. No matter what our posts suggest, it’s not all flowers, fun outfits and fantastic friendships.

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Luckily, the gods of true connectivity smile upon us once in awhile and we get to experience real live connections. Recently, my obsessive Facebooking paid off in a wonderful connection with a couple of young artists/digital media mavens who belong to an extended tribe of women who are focused on staying empowered and living life by design. We sat down for a face-to-face, swapped stories about our experiences within said community and gushed over each others current projects. I can’t tell you how gratifying it was that someone had read my stuff and thought it merited being shared with their audience.

Like many of us, I’m really hard on myself and though I put in many hours on my passion projects, there’s often a nagging sense of not being quite good enough. Of not really being ‘there yet.’ Of course, I realize that’s just a story I tell myself, a deeply ingrained and powerful story, but a story nonetheless. I work each day to write new stories. That meeting was a first-rate example of moving through isolation to inspiration.

isolation and inspiration
Patranila and Abiola.
Omar Terrick Columbus Photography
Then there are the happy invitations to celebrate the success of another that lead to renewing your own spirit and drive. My bestie and fellow blogger Abiola Abrams invited me to join her at the 5th Blogiversary celebration for super blogger Kitty Bradshaw. Kitty writes about her life in NY as a California girl, has tens of thousands of readers and perhaps the cutest blog logo ever! The turnout at her event was amazing. I ran into some long-time blogger friends (Nando of nandoism.com and Shoshi, the Courtesan Curator) and made some great new connections. We filled up on childhood favorite beef and veggie patties from Golden Krust and entered to win a car from General Motors for a 10-day road trip!


It was face time to the max and I was blown away by Kitty’s composure in the face of so much success and, once again, I was inspired and ready to engage. I guess it all comes back to personal connection. It’s why we do what we do–sharing our lives, our stories, our triumphs and disappointments, looking to connect with our tribe.

Here are a few snaps from the party. Everyone was so colorful that day. Loved it!


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Kitty Bradshaw and Abiola Abrams.
Omar Terrick Columbus Photography


Omar Terrick Columbus Photography


Well, the strive continues. Thanks for reading!


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  1. 12 May 2014 / 11:00 PM

    Fabulous outfit here. Love your style and everything seems to be FUN.

  2. 6 May 2014 / 11:36 PM

    what a lovely event! I love it when women come together to support each other in the businesses! I'm smiling!

  3. 6 May 2014 / 4:55 PM

    You're right. It is really sad that isolation still plays a role in people's lives. Though social networks have really helped though. Just like you, I've made really amazing friends and have met some wonderful people.

  4. 6 May 2014 / 3:25 PM

    I have a full time facing my laptop. and my girlfriend is complaining about my blogging thing, lol but i love it. But sometimes we must be unwired to have a time with family and friends.

  5. 6 May 2014 / 2:50 PM

    Maintaining a blog can really be toxic. It's good you found your friends event to unwind.

  6. 6 May 2014 / 9:51 AM

    I love the way you carry yourself with such grace and a beautiful smile 🙂

  7. 6 May 2014 / 5:22 AM

    You have an amazing smile.. I'm loving that top as well! Looks like ya'll had a blast!

    • 6 May 2014 / 8:26 PM

      Thanks Natalie! We did have a really good time.

  8. 6 May 2014 / 3:25 AM

    Sometimes we are the ones that Isolate ourselves from others to be able to find the inspiration that we need.

    • 6 May 2014 / 8:26 PM

      Hmm. Well that's an interesting way to look at it. Thanks for the fresh perspective.

  9. 6 May 2014 / 3:10 AM

    Looks like a really fun event. I love your outfit too.

    Michelle F.

  10. 6 May 2014 / 2:44 AM

    It definitely has it's ups and downs, doesn't it? It does look like you had a great time though!

  11. 5 May 2014 / 7:05 PM

    I'm happy that you meet bloggers and became friends with them. In this world dominated by the social media, it's hard to bond with strangers but when you have the same interests then your life will be a happy one.

  12. 5 May 2014 / 6:09 PM

    You have great smile and style! Great post!

  13. 5 May 2014 / 4:29 PM

    You have great style, it is good to get out there. Thanks for sharing.

  14. 5 May 2014 / 4:16 PM

    You look great! and thank you for sharing this post.

  15. 5 May 2014 / 3:21 PM

    I like meeting new people.. I want to hold a little party for our user base.. i want to meet everyone!

  16. 5 May 2014 / 2:39 PM

    I love your style, you inspire me to not only look better but to be better! I actually started to dress up more and I went out and bought makeup (something I hadn't done in years). I have a RA and I was really down on my looks, my hair is falling out because of the medication I had to get dentures and I am only 44. But I am slowly realizing that this the me I'm stuck with and I better make the most of it so thank you!

    • 5 May 2014 / 5:34 PM

      Thank you Rena! RA is something to contend with for sure. I'm glad you're feeling better, looking better and being better! 🙂

  17. 5 May 2014 / 2:04 PM

    Keep strutting your stuff and being your own inspiration. Lean into the things that you love and excite you (regardless of the fear!). Know that the world is watching you back and very inspired.

    • 5 May 2014 / 5:46 PM

      Thank you! I'm so glad to know that.

  18. 6 August 2013 / 1:57 PM

    Thanks Tracie and thanks for following! It's so cool to find new folks of like mind!

  19. 6 August 2013 / 10:07 AM

    I'm so glad to be able to branch out and meet new bloggers. I have been trying to find wonderful examples such was yourself and your friends. Oh, and I just wanted to say that you guys look amazing. go gurlies go!

  20. 1 August 2013 / 9:35 PM

    Nicole, thank you. You honor me!

  21. 1 August 2013 / 9:30 PM

    Cute top! And great piece. Thanks, Patranila. You speak for me.


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