What I Learned While Meditating With Deepak

Oprah and Deepak introduced another 21-Day Meditation Challenge and the focus is Desire and Destiny. I love these meditation challenges and challenges in general! One, because they force encourage me to take a few moments each day to breathe, be still and to reflect and two, because I always learn something new about life and about myself while meditating with Deepak Chopra.

Meditating With Deepak

The main message this go round is that your desire is your destiny. While I adore Deepak, so much so that I practically accosted him at a restaurant once, my initial thought on the matter is one of skepticism. My skepticism is perhaps because of being taught early on that ‘just because you want something doesn’t mean you’re going to get.’ And to go a step further, I also had drilled into my head was told that ‘wanting a thing doesn’t mean it’s a good thing to have.’ It is useful to note that I am a bona-fide, recovering PK (Preacher’s Kid) and in the PK’s household, desire can easily get conflated with lust and you know lust is one of the Seven Deadlies and you shouldn’t be focused on what you want as much as what you should want and oh my god, where’s the escape hatch?!?!

meditating with deepak

Needless to say, all this talk about desire and destiny made me a little uncomfortable. And then, *trumpet flare* Deepak to the Rescue!!
My favorite takeaway from this challenge (and my life lesson) is this:

As is my desire, so is my intention
As is my intention, so is my will
As is my will, so is my deed
As is my deed, so is my destiny.
There. Simple, clean, easy to understand and it checks out! Just as long as one doesn’t impose some sort of judgment or morality code on the desire in the first place, we’re all good. Who knew it could all be untangled so easily!
I was reminded of a story I heard years ago about desire and how it rules the world. The story goes like this:
One night, a family decided to go out for dinner and everyone piled into the car to find a good place to eat. The parents, two small kids and an uncle. No one had a strong feeling about where/what they wanted to eat except for the little boy who was determined that he wanted something specific but wasn’t quite sure what it was. So the adults indulged him and set out to find a restaurant that would satisfy his palate. After about an hour of driving from one restaurant to another, checking menus and dismissing options, the now deliriously hungry uncle seized the kid by the shoulders and growled ‘Hurry up and pick a place so we can all eat something!’ The destiny of all was determined by the one with the greatest desire. Got it.

And The Lesson Is …

Here’s the Patranila Lesson. As I mentioned earlier, I’m no stranger to challenges and it’s also no secret that I don’t necessarily (OK, ever) follow them to the letter. But that’s never the point so I’m OK with that. I do, however, like to do things in order. Especially a meditation challenge because oftentimes, one idea builds on a previous idea and so on. If you miss a day or two, you won’t get the full benefit of the exercise. True to form, I fell behind in the early stages and had planned to do two-a-days until I caught up. That way, I could still hear each message, do the meditations and wring every bit of enlightenment and blah blah blah. Of course, that didn’t happen because I can barely make the time to do one meditation a day let alone two and I remained several days behind throughout the course.


Finally, at around Day 15 I thought to myself, what if you just do the meditation for today and don’t worry about going back to Day 10? Day 15 is for Day 15 and since that’s where you are right now, why not just get the lesson that’s intended for today. AND maybe you didn’t need to hear the one for Day 10 anyway. (!!!!!)
[click_to_tweet tweet=”What I learned while meditating with Deepak! ‘Worrying about what you may have missed may cause you to miss even more stuff.’ #meditate #selfcare” quote=”Worrying about what you may have missed may cause you to miss even more stuff. “]
Let me be clear. I am a firm believer in the notion that how you do anything is how you do everything and… hoozah ding, ding, ding, light bulb, watershed moment! How many times have I killed myself trying to GO BACK to do something that I didn’t get a chance to/choose to/make time to do? What Earth-shattering goodness and goodies have I missed out on in the present by focusing on what has already passed me by? You can’t. go. back. Jefferson! NOW is all there is. Worrying about what you may have missed can have you missing more stuff still!! Get your life girl!
Patranila and Abiola meet Deepak on Valentine's Day. Meditating with Deepak.
Me and Abiola during our gleeful meeting with a very gracious Deepak Chopra. 
And so dear Deepak, I thank you once again for your wisdom, insight and endless gifts! Never again will I try to go back to bring yesterday’s magic into today’s freshly minted potential. Can’t wait to see what lessons the next challenge will bring!
Thanks for reading and if you’re interested in meditating with Deepak, the Desire and Destiny Meditations are available for download here. And here’s where you can get more Deepak on Amazon.




  1. 23 May 2014 / 8:49 PM

    Treasure every moment because you can never get it back Ty for sharing.

  2. 23 May 2014 / 2:29 PM

    I like your thoughts about desire and how many of us are taught that it is a bad thing. It can be, but it can also be our motivation to get things accomplished.

  3. 23 May 2014 / 1:16 PM

    Very interesting. And it looks like you learned tons

  4. 23 May 2014 / 5:25 AM

    What a total epiphany and you make a darn good point. I'm going to remember that!

  5. 23 May 2014 / 1:55 AM

    Sounds relaxing, I mediate with my Bible every morning.

  6. 23 May 2014 / 12:47 AM

    Wow! This is like a one-of-a-kind experience! I'm sure you learned a lot.

  7. 22 May 2014 / 7:37 PM

    I love that mantra also. I need more time for self reflection and meditation.

  8. 22 May 2014 / 6:03 PM

    Sounds like a great challenge. Meditating is always good, especially if you use the time for prayer.

  9. 22 May 2014 / 5:55 PM

    I'm going to look into that challenge and learn more. Thank you for sharing it.

  10. 22 May 2014 / 5:24 PM

    I may have to try that challenge.. I have never meditated before but i hear it would do wonders.

  11. 22 May 2014 / 3:19 PM

    That is an awesome way to get peace and stay positive.

    Michelle F.

  12. 22 May 2014 / 2:45 PM

    This meditation is a good way to capture some positive mindset and you should just take it on a per day basis.

  13. 22 May 2014 / 1:44 PM

    I like your story about desire. Keep picking up the pieces and trying again.

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